Monday, December 15, 2014

The Tears Hid Behind the Smile........

You just become numb and learn to smile and say everything is okay, yes I am great. While on the inside your heart feels as though it is just bleeding profusely.   Most days you wander as if you are in a fog on the inside.  On the outside your smile is so bright and greets everyone.  They have no clue of the pain and hurt you suffer on the inside.  No one to talk, no one would even understand your journey and your pain so why bother.  You keep it inside until you figure out how to get through it with your tears hid behind your smile.  

by me the pain I feel at this moment

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

[Official Video] Silent Night (Live) - Pentatonix

Makeup faves at big holiday savings!

I love to shop especially when I can get free shipping and saving at the same time.  
I started shopping online for Christmas gifts when I went through my cancer treatments and found it to be less stressful and a lot more fun.  I could cover more stores and more sales.  The best part was not having to tote all the bags around everything was shipped directly to my home in nice boxes easy for wrapping.  Enjoy your shopping experience!

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Monday, November 24, 2014

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Thursday, November 20, 2014

5 Signs You’re Being Manipulated

DSC02352“Manipulative” is a dirty label assigned to clients. I’ve heard it from bosses and colleagues, read it on charts. However it’s also a very real thing many of us have experienced in our workplaces, classrooms, friendships and dating lives. And since it can be a difficult to recognize this red flag in the beginning of an abusive relationship, I think it’s worth describing on a trauma blog. After all, many people don’t recognize they’re in an abusive relationship until it’s too late and it’s difficult to get out for emotional, economic or logistical reasons. So if you see these happening, take note.
They won’t take “no” for an answerWhen this person hears “no”, they hear “time to brush up on my argument skills!”
They use guilt trips
Otherwise known as emotional blackmail, they constantly remind you of how your boundary hurts them, and imply (or outright tell you) that this means that your decision is wrong
You always end up apologizing
If you’ve been in this kind of argument, you know it’s usually tricky to pinpoint what, exactly, went wrong. But take a look at an example:
Susie has a boyfriend who is really unreliable. There are many occasions he shows up hours late for a date, and has been unresponsive on his cellphone so she didn’t know where she was. When she expresses her frustration with the behavior he says, “yeah, you’re right, I’m the worst boyfriend ever. I shouldn’t even be in a relationship. You deserve to date someone better.” Susie always ends up apologizing.
Why did this happen? The next two signs are why.
There’s only space for their needs
When two people are boundary setting, planning looks like this: You need to be back by 1? I can’t leave til 11, so meet at 12
However, when one person gets their needs met by manipulating others, the monologue becomes: I don’t eat lunch til one. You said you wanted to see me, but I guess you didn’t really mean it.
They misinterpret what you say in the worst possible way
You’ll notice in the example of Susie, her boyfriend misinterpreted her complaints about her behavior into an indictment of his character. In the example above, the unheard speaker’s boundary setting means that they don’t want to see their friend. In virtually theonly scientific article dedicated to the manipulative personality that I could find, the author refers to a “very fragile narcissism.” There areplenty of articles on PsychCentral about narcissism, and of course one of the key characteristics of a narcissist is their endless need for affirmation. Any constructive feedback is experienced as a threat, which is how the misinterpretation happens.
How to deal with this behavior? An important key is to recognize it. This helps you to refuse to be pulled down the rabbit hole. Remain firm in your boundary and keep the conversation focused on the topic—it’s okay to repeat yourself. Chances are if the boss, friend, coworker, or lover is consistently doing these 5 things, they probably aren’t going to change, since it’s likely the way they’ve learned to get their needs met. But if you have a choice to move on, or at least minimize how engaged you are in the behavior, hopefully the impact on you will also decrease.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

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