Thursday, October 23, 2014

Firm and Restore

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Skin So Soft Firm & Restore Age-Defying Corrective Neck & Chest Cream SPF 15

SKIN SO SOFT Firm & Restore – restores skin’s youthful appearance. 

Now with Babassu Oil. Experience delicate blossoms and sheer florals. Evens skin tone and texture while improving the appearance of fine wrinkles.

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SKIN SO SOFT Firm & Restore – restores skin’s youthful appearance. 

Now with Babassu Oil. Experience delicate blossoms and sheer florals. Makes skin look and feel dramatically firmer and tighter. 11.8 fl. oz.

The lightweight cream rejuvenates elasticity and vitality. It visibly improves the appearance of skin's firmness, while immediately toning skin's surface. Scented with green florals and delicate blossoms. 6.7 fl. oz.

What is Babassu OilBabassu oil is derived from the fruits of the babassu palm, a tree native to the tropical rain forests of Brazil. The oil is similar to coconut oil and is used in cooking and cosmetics. It is light yellow in color and semi-soft at room temperature, but melts easily when rubbed into the skin. This oil is increasingly becoming a substitute for coconut oil, and its wild harvest is a major industry in Brazil.
The babassu palm was discovered by French paleontologist A.D. d'Orbigny in the early 1800s. The South American natives called the tree babassu, and d'Orbigny gave it the scientific name Orbignya oleifera. This palm grows up to 20 feet (6.1 meters) tall. It has several clusters of up to 500 fruits that resemble small coconuts. The oil is derived by cold pressing the seeds of these fruits. Babassu oil is made up of 70 percent lipids, with a high percentage of lauric and myristic acids. It is these acids that give the oil its low melting temperature.
When babassu oil comes into contact with the skin, it draws the heat out and creates a cooling effect. It is a common ingredient in lotions, creams, lip balms and hair conditioners. The oil forms a protective layer on the skin that isn't greasy or shiny, and it can be used on all skin types. It is also useful for people with eczema and other types of dermatitis because it is gentle and non-comedogenic.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014


Codependent relationships are a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. People with a predisposition to be a codependent enabler often find themselves in relationships where their primary role is that of rescuer, supporter, and confidante.

There is a thing of helping to much.  I have learned a lot this past week.  It has truly helped me to understand a lot.  I now understand why I like to help people so much.  I have to learn how to use it in a good nurturing way and not in the way it has been used and abused the past 25 years I no longer need to be an enabler.  I just cannot believe I never knew of this before.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

What is Gaslighting

What is Gaslighting?

hotline-gaslighting“You’re crazy – that never happened.”
“Are you sure? You tend to have a bad memory.”
“It’s all in your head.”

Does your partner repeatedly say things like this to you? Do you often start questioning your own perception of reality, even your own sanity, within your relationship? If so, your partner may be using what mental health professionals call “gaslighting.”
This term comes from the 1938 stage play Gas Light, in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy by dimming the lights (which were powered by gas) in their home, and then he denies that the light changed when his wife points it out. It is an extremely effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity, which gives the abusive partner a lot of power (and we know that abuse is about power and control). Once an abusive partner has broken down the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions, the victim is more likely to stay in the abusive relationship.
There are a variety of gaslighting techniques that an abusive partner might use:
Withholding: the abusive partner pretends not to understand or refuses to listen. Ex. “I don’t want to hear this again,” or “You’re trying to confuse me.”
Countering: the abusive partner questions the victim’s memory of events, even when the victim remembers them accurately. Ex. “You’re wrong, you never remember things correctly.”
Blocking/Diverting: the abusive partner changes the subject and/or questions the victim’s thoughts. Ex. “Is that another crazy idea you got from [friend/family member]?” or “You’re imagining things.”
Trivializing: the abusive partner makes the victim’s needs or feelings seem unimportant. Ex. “You’re going to get angry over a little thing like that?” or “You’re too sensitive.”
Forgetting/Denial: the abusive partner pretends to have forgotten what actually occurred or denies things like promises made to the victim. Ex. “I don’t know what you’re talking about,” or “You’re just making stuff up.”
Gaslighting typically happens very gradually in a relationship; in fact, the abusive partner’s actions may seem harmless at first. Over time, however, these abusive patterns continue and a victim can become confused, anxious, isolated, and depressed, and they can lose all sense of what is actually happening. Then they start relying on the abusive partner more and more to define reality, which creates a very difficult situation to escape.
In order to overcome this type of abuse, it’s important to start recognizing the signs and eventually learn to trust yourself again. According to author and psychoanalyst Robin Stern, Ph.D., the signs of being a victim of gaslighting include:
  • You constantly second-guess yourself.
  • You ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?” multiple times a day.
  • You often feel confused and even crazy.
  • You’re always apologizing to your partner.
  • You can’t understand why, with so many apparently good things in your life, you aren’t happier.
  • You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.
  • You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.
  • You know something is terribly wrong, but you can never quite express what it is, even to yourself.
  • You start lying to avoid the put downs and reality twists.
  • You have trouble making simple decisions.
  • You have the sense that you used to be a very different person – more confident, more fun-loving, more relaxed.
  • You feel hopeless and joyless.
  • You feel as though you can’t do anything right.
  • You wonder if you are a “good enough” partner.
If any of these signs ring true for you, give us a call at 1-800-799-7233 or chat with us online Monday through Friday, 9am-7pm CST. Our advocates are here to support and listen to you.
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Today has been a challenging day emotionally for me.  Made me think back to being a child. You know this was one of the commercials we all loved to sing as a child. Kind of puts a smile on my face! Don't let no one ever still your joy, when they do find something or someone to put a smile on your face!   This was the first thing that came to my mind (rescue)


It all starts with the right foundation!

Monday, October 20, 2014

Meet Paddy the Penguin

Meet Paddy the Penguin! 

Paddy is going to make a lot of Children happy with your help. You can donate a dollar or more, when $20 is reached a Paddy the Penguin will be donated to our Victims Assistance and police department. My goal is 50 Paddy the Penguins.
(If you would like to do this in your hometown for a special group or organization message me and lets make it happen.  Are children and priceless)

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